I once heard someone explain that emotions were energy in motion. I liked that definition more than any other ones I’ve heard. It makes sense to me. Sometimes it’s energy that drains you. Which is fine, all emotions have purpose. Sometimes they overtake us. That’s okay too, we’re human after all. But I’m realizing part of my spiritual journey is learning to separate from my emotions. Understanding some of them are stemmed in limited beliefs. They are extremely important guideposts in our lives, figuring out how we feel is monumental in all situations, but I think more emphasis needs to be placed on this simple truth: we are not our emotions.
Big problems arise within myself when I let my negative emotions fully take the reins. It’s extremely strong energy like a storm tearing down whatever was brave enough to stay or get in its path. Even though I know all emotions are an important part of my life, here’s what it looks like when they consume me: lashing out at people who have nothing to do with the problem, having no energy to do anything, eating foods and doing things that don’t serve me well, I can go on
One of the most important realizations in my spiritual journey is this: just because I am allowed feel my emotions doesn’t mean I can be an asshole. Well-actually, I can be whatever I want, but I don’t want to burn other people with the emotions that are firing up inside of me. My entire life I’ve seen people around me feel their emotions in gigantic ways and then apologize afterwards. The apologies stopped meaning anything to me after a while. There are some things you can’t take back. There are some things that shouldn’t be said. There are some things that shouldn’t be done. At least I feel this way for myself. No judgment on whoever did what they did in the midst of emotions because I know that’s what they were, emotional reactions. But boundaries are important. That pain I felt being transferred on me was an indicator. I don’t want to invite people into my life that will constantly emotionally rain all over my parade and more importantly, I don’t want to do that to other people.•
Emotions are important. We need to feel them. We need to release them. Sometimes that takes a few seconds, sometimes minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, or years. Depends on how deeply ingrained the limited belief behind the emotion is. But within releasing the emotions, I think it’s important to be mindful of how we do that. There’s a time, place, and way to do things. Sometimes it’s just taking a few extra breaths if I’m face to face with somebody. Sometimes it’s shutting my mouth and writing it down instead. Sometimes it’s screaming at the top of my lungs when I’m in the car by myself (haven’t done that one in a while but trust me, it works really well when you need it). I’ve never found productive releases through targeting anyone. They just created new energies of guilt and shame. What are some ways you release your emotions that work well for you? I would love to know!•